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Monday 19 December 2016

Learning and having fun with the kids this holiday.



Learning and having fun with the kids during the holidays.

Former New Jersey Department of Education Commissioner Lucille Davy offers ideas to keep your child learning during the holiday break and reflects on her own favorite holiday learning memories.




The holiday season offers many opportunities for family time, including preparing for special dinners, getting together with relatives, and traveling to visit family and friends. With children home from school for a long break, that time can also present many enjoyable opportunities to expand their learning and reinforce skills they are developing. Although our two sons are now grown, when they were young my husband and I took advantage of the holidays to spend quality time together while at the same time engaging in activities that reinforced their growing math and literacy skills.

Reading offers many varied opportunities to support the development of children's literacy skills. If you are planning to read to your children, find books that are more advanced than their current reading level and tell a great story. With a break of several days, you can choose a longer book and then read a few chapters each night before bed, so they have something to look forward to each night. I remember reading Charlotte's Web aloud to our children when they were in early elementary school. Of course, each night they did not want me to stop reading—which is the whole idea behind helping them develop a love of reading! Your child's teacher or the librarian at the local library would be happy to recommend some great books. Another alternative is to select a book that your child can read to you. You can then take turns reading the story aloud. And remember that grandparents and other relatives can also participate.

If you are traveling to visit family or friends over the holiday break, you can listen to books on tape while you're driving. This keeps the children engaged and helps pass the time in an entertaining way. For a very long ride, the Harry Potter books can be quite captivating, for both kids and parents! Another option is to read a long chapter book aloud. On one trip we read The Pushcart War, by Jean Merril, which provided lots of excitement, suspense, and laughs. It also brought me back to my own 6th grade class with Mr. Bornstein (one of the best teachers I ever had and I had many really good teachers), who read a few chapters of the book to us every day just before the dismissal bell.

You can also help your children build their critical thinking and comprehension skills by asking them questions about what you have read. Be more specific than merely asking whether they liked the book. Ask them about something that happened or about a character's action—and to give examples or "evidence" from the story to support their answers. Being able to think critically and analytically are the kinds of skills they will need to succeed in school and later in life.

There are also many ways to build children's math skills. Cooking and baking always come to mind as opportunities to use multiplication and fractions, especially if you are cutting a recipe in half or doubling it. If you are baking cookies and perhaps making gift packages for neighbors, friends, or relatives, even young children can count equal numbers into each box or bag. Deciding how to fit everyone around the dinner table with certain restrictions, like alternating gender or alternating kids and adults, can be an interesting problem for older children to solve.

Playing word and number games is another way to pass the time on a long car ride. For the youngest children, you can ask them to identify cars of certain colors. Or they can look for letters on road signs or license plates from different states. Older children love spelling games that can involve the whole family: each person spells a word in a round-robin fashion. The trick is that you must spell a word that begins with the last letter of the word spelled before yours. As children get older, they can be more strategic in their selections - by choosing words that end in letters they think will be difficult for the next person. And of course, you can add a bit more challenge by setting a minimum letter limit for the words.

In short, time at home or traveling to visit friends and relatives during school breaks provides families with opportunities to create lasting memories while still providing children with opportunities to hone and improve their academic skills. The good news is that in addition to supporting and expanding their learning, these activities can provide moments that children will remember as part of their "vacation" time. I know our sons still think fondly of the trip when we read The Pushcart War - and so do I!

Source:Parent ToolKit

Saturday 29 October 2016

The strength of a Mother.

“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.”

 Barbara Kingsolver


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Thursday 27 October 2016

Be Inspired


Searching through my archive of articles written by me and this caught my attention.


          BE INSPIRED. ....
I have heard lots of things of recent(both silly and
sensible ones),seen lots of funny characters
displayed by people that makes you wonder(what the
heck )and felt the impacts of selfless attitudes
towards the betterment of humanity(and get whoah )
In the midst of my random musings I learnt to pick
from the realities of life,because I have so many
thoughts bombarding me from all corners of my
brain.At a point I went blank from trying to judge the
reasons for my actions or rules and
regulations binding a cause.
Harmonising my own personal thoughts with every
thoughts triggered by what I have heard people say
about life,funny characters displayed by people that
makes you wonder "what the heck " or even the
selfless attitudes towards the betterment of humanity
has formed a complete lifestyle to my personal
development.Which formed the decision of
maintaining the great characters in me and
refining the ones that absolutely needs a
complete wash to become new.
Counting the little achievements I have made and
hoping to attain many more gives me lot's of joy
than feeling bad at myself.
Accepting my role as a mother and an educator
makes me buckle up at all my actions because l
have young minds mirroring my actions.I don't want
to misled the leaders of tomorrow.
Understanding the diversity of people attitudes and
the influences on their characters does not put me on
an edge when people act funny.
Inspiration from people with selfless contributions
towards a better humanity gives me the courage to
carry on too.
Disappointments,consequences of decisions
made,sacrifices made,happy and sad
moments,congratulatory times,quite and loud
moments and lot's more have harmonize my thoughts
to form my lifestyle and say to myself and everyone
around "that all is well"
Put a smile on your face no matter your condition.....
Fe eyin re

For more inspiring write-ups like this link on www.nafisustain.blogspot.com

Saturday 1 October 2016

Happy Independence Day..

It's another new day and the thought of making prayers for my fatherland NIGERIA. ...springs up.
With a hopeful heart,I aspire to see a greater days in the Nigeria.
To witness when basic amenities will no longer be manifestos for political posts.Would I be wishing for too much,if I pray to see Nigeria with corruption free citizens and good governance,political stability,unemployment rate reduced to 0%percent,a free era of ethics and religions differences conflicts, secured environment,food production,good road network,affordable housing scheme, e.t.c
Probably am on the asking for more mode (Oliver Twist mode)l am hoping for CHANGE MODE in every citizen of the Nation.
Let's join hands together to make our Nation a greater one....
Happy Independence Day.




“Nigeria is the Nigeria for Nigerians”

Tuesday 23 August 2016

Great Parents Hear Things Their Children Are Not Saying.

       
      The most important thing in communication is
hearing what isn't said. - Peter F. Drucker






        Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body
language before we had speech, and apparently, 80%
of what you understand in a conversation is read
through the body, not the words. - Deborah Bull

Children love talking endlessly especially to their parents and get excited more when they see their parents showing a great interest in them.But chatting with our children can take loads of time and parents are usually busy attending to lot's of things that we tend to get carried away and fail to pay attention to our kids non -Verbal Communications. And so we say to them "please talk, am listening"and not bothering to look at them to see their non -Verbal Communications. 
    and so we miss alot of reaction and expression on them.
Whether you do that consciously or you don't realize
it's happening, contradiction between verbal and
nonverbal communication can lead to :
Irritation or
confusion or even
Mistrust
Paying attention to those contradictions is also a way
to uncover lies

Some Non -Verbal Communication Parents Should Take Note In Their Children

Facial Expressions
Facial expressions can alert a parent to so many
things. A baby who has a soiled diaper, a toddler who
has wet himself or a teen who is angry with the world
all can be revealed by the facial expressions they wear.
Looks of confusion or uncertainty can let a parent
know when something is unclear and countenances of
sadness or grief can send the signal to console a
bereft youngster. Without these clues, parents would
have a difficult time understanding the current status
of their children's heartfelt feelings as well as their
cries for attention and assistance.

Manerisms and Gestures
A crying baby who constantly pulls at his ears will
immediately be checked for an ear infection. A child
who continuously rubs his eyes may be indicating that
he is tired. A preschooler crossing his legs and jumping
up and down may need to use the restroom -- and
quickly. There are so many cues that a child gives his
parents on a day-to-day basis that it is important that
parents be alert to the message being sent so they can
properly care for their offspring.

Eye Contact
Eye contact is especially important with older children.
The manner in which they look at you can indicate
shyness, deceit, discomfort, or love. The ancient
proverb, "The eyes are the window to the soul," is
especially true in that so much can be read into the
visual exchanges between adult and child. A student
who loses his place during a show can gain immediate
confidence just from a teacher's look of
encouragement from across a stage. A child can see
when a parent's love shines from her eyes after a job
well done. A stern glance lets a youngster know when
he is in big trouble for an infraction.

Posture
When you ask your child how his day is going and his
response is "great" or "wonderful" but he is hunched
over and walking slowly with little or no energy, it is
highly likely that you will read his body language and
ask him what is wrong. A student walking straight and
tall through the front door on report card day is sure to
have exemplary grades. Posture can reveal so much
about how a child is feeling and what is going on in
his life and also how he feels about himself and his
body image.






Sources:
Conscious Communication
LIVESTRONG.COM
Our every day life

Monday 22 August 2016

CHILDHOOD ATTACHMENT

CHILDHOOD ATTACHMENT




 Attachment in children is "a biological instinct in which proximity to an attachment figure is sought when the child senses or perceives threat or discomfort. Attachment behaviour anticipates a response by the attachment figure which will remove threat or discomfort". Attachment also describes the function of availability, which is the degree to which the authoritative figure is responsive to the child's needs and shares communication with them. Childhood attachment can define characteristics that will shape the child's sense of self, their forms of emotion-regulation, and how they carry out relationships with others.Attachment is found in all mammals to some degree, especially nonhuman primates. Why is it important to form a secure child- parent bond in early childhood? It seems intuitive that a secure child-parent bond is important for survival and development. Research shows just how real those benefits are to children: They are better able to control their negative emotions in stressful situations. They develop better social competence, learn to match feelings with words in dealing with what’s happening around them, and they are less liable to develop internalizing and externalizing behaviour problems. They are more confident about exploring the world around them. They learn through their parent’s caring behaviours to have a sense of worth, and to empathize and cooperate with others. These social skills help them to form strong relationships with peers in the future. Sources: Encyclopedia on Early Childhood Development Wikipedia

Sunday 17 April 2016

We want great leaders of tomorrow.




We want leaders that will give back to the society,we want leaders and youths with a sense of humanity.
We want children who will show compassion for others and  understand the plight of people.


But we forget that we are lacking in our duties and responsibilities to instil in our children...leaders of tomorrow these basic principles of life.



What attitude as parents do we have for our kids to emulate.
What has the school curriculum taught these leaders of tomorrow about community services.
And what example as the society shown to them to make children have human feelings?



This is all about everyone.
It's high time we start engaging our children in active community service development.Once our children are involve in giving back to the society it becomes part of their personal development.

We don't need to start preaching when they become adults.They are already impressing us because they are giving back to the society because it has become an integral part of their character.



Then,in the nearest future we shall start to have youths and leaders who will have a mentality of making sure that each of their jurisdiction is adequately taken care of according to their capabilities.

I foresee a kind of future where aspiring leaders will come to manifestos and political debates with a portfolio of the services to humanity they have rendered and not "When I become. ........... l will construct roads,l will build schools and so on like we hear in our present day.



God Bless Nigeria!!!



Nafi's blog@ www.nafisustain.com

Saturday 16 April 2016

Tips on when couples disagree on parenting style.


 When couples disagree on parenting skills.


As parents we aspire to make our kids greater than us.Ensuring this entails lot's of parenting skills. Sometimes we may want to address issues or discpline our kids in our own style but usually have our spouses not agreeing to our style parenting.
As couples we are not the same individual,there is bound to be a disagreement in agreeing to a kind of parenting style.Our upbringing, exposure,environment we grew up and beliefs influences our styles of parenting.
Mummy might like talking one on one with the kids while Daddy likes the firm hand with the kids.
Definitely couples with differences will argue over how to discipline their children.Most couples have opposite qualities which attracts each other . Unfortunately
these very qualities that pull us together often become those that threaten to push us apart.Things will be fine if parents can use the following guidelines and agree at a point the kind of parenting style they want for their kids.

*Couples should back-up each other decisions.

*Make each other look good. Both daddy and mummy should be the great guy to their kids.


*Talk about the kind of parenting style you both want when you are both calm and in a good mood.


*Agree to a particular style of parenting style different issues.


*Make your child understand the reasons why "dad" or "mum" is taking a decision and don't paint your spouse bad in front of your child.


*Get information on your spouse's upbringing, the environment they grew up and their beliefs to understand their points and know how deep their feelings are  on parenting . Because these points influences and affects our reasoning as parents.


*Avoid getting into an argument but rather try and stay calm and listen to each other.


*Take a time out when things tends to get out of hand.


*Seek professional advice if you can't cope anymore.

Thursday 7 January 2016

My random musings today. ...

And I wonder why we have to go through all the hurdles of life.
And I wonder why we have to follow the step by step principles of life.
And I wonder why we have to fall into a situation before we begin to appreciate the life that we live.
And I wonder why we don't just accept that our creator always have something in stock for us when things don't work the way we want.

Early morning random musings that came to my mind while drooling over a very hot cup of tea.(wondering why I made it this hot)
It never cease to amaze me the bountiful mercies and blessings always there for us to tap,if only we will be patient.The joy of living the life should be enough to want to extend it to all that we do as an individual.
Gladly accepting our roles entrusted on us and the zeal to wanting to achieve the best will always drive us on to attain the best.Doing the best as a parent, as a brother,as a sister, as an office holder or whatever we are held responsible for should be a way of influencing the joy of life unto  others.

My wandering mind wonders why these thoughts are coming to me.
Oooh! must have been the young guy I met some days ago doing his responbilities with joy and rubbing it off those who have encounter with him.
Ah!must have been the situations I have been through of late.
Yeah!must have been accepting the hurdles of life and acknowledging that our CREATOR truly has something beautiful in stock for us.