Healthly Nutrition Life Style For Children.

One of the greatest thing I enjoy doing most as a mother is cooking meals for the family.My love for feeding the family healthy meals has made me realize the awesome benefits derived from healthy nutrition in the mental and physical
development of a child.

Encouraging our bundle of joy..

Children needs our constant support and encouragement to show we truly love,care and have them in mind. Celebrating the little things they do. Encouraging words makes them glow with happiness on their faces.It also motivate them to do more positive behavior. Thank and appreciate them at their best and talk to them when they are wrong.This attitude helps in building up their self esteem and confidence. Appreciate and Encourage Children Today..

Nafi's Random Musings: Before "l DO"

Nafi's Random Musings: Before "l DO": The kind of person we choose as a spouse determines the kind of life we live as a family.This makes me remember two important pieces of ad...

Before "l DO"

The kind of person we choose as a spouse determines the kind of life we live as a family.This makes me remember two important pieces of advice l came across. "Choosing the right better half has to be done correctly as they have the ability to change our life with color s of happiness as well as with heart filled sadness.

Get your kids asking for more beans with this recipe i made for my kids.

Food For Thought...

To Working Mothers

Being  a working mother or wife, can be energy tasking i thought to my self loudly as i set to clean all the nooks and crannies i usually ignore during day in order not to get to work late.It's just funny that despite all the efforts l put in place to always work with time and get to work very early i don't seem to see the effects.its either a case of missing socks,broken pencil,uncompleted homework and lots more
I sat down to reflect on what i really do at home that gets me so exhausted,late to work,and behind schedule most morning and pictures of the house chores such as cleaning the rooms,shopping for home supplies,doing laundry,cooking,paying bills,taking and picking the kids at school,sorting out clothes,kids home,washing kitchen utensils,calming the kids down,attending to the kids and spouse needs and lots more flashes in my head.Then,l know i had to get myself organized to weather the rush hour morning working days and busy bee weekends.And i came up with these few tips to get organized for working mothers like me who want to prioritize time ,become less tired and stay on time  .
TIPS TO GET ORGANIZED
*Get containers and places where you can keep things such as things needed for school days such as kids socks,underwear,school shoes and lunch packs and writing materials.Baskets and laundry bins will also mop out a lot of items scatter around the house.
*Always have your alarm clock around you to wake up early ;this gives you time to do some leftover house chores and get prepared before the kids.
*Always have a plan of the meals you want to cook for the three square meal.this makes you abreast of the supplies in the house and keep tab with eating healthy meal rather then just walking to the kitchen and guessing what to cook.
*Get a routine of the house chores and other errands you want to run .
*Out source for helpers when the work is to overweening for you.
*Get talking to other moms through different such as close friends,internet mediums,grandparents etc to make you feel relieve that you are not alone in this.
*Have a game plan of getting to work early and closing on time to give  a break.
*Take a lot rest when you need to.Don't be a perfectionist that always want to get your house chores and ear rands done all the time
*Kill two birds with one stone while your at your leisure  hour interact with your children to get feedback of their feelings what was learn t at school.
*Connect with your creator always to give you the strength to be that super mother and wife to you want to be. .
 

Parenting:Fathers Get Involved.

I had an encounter with some fathers some days ago and we got discussing about the situation of the country and then our discussion digresses to parenting on how to be a successful parent and I was totally shocked at the extent the men were not involved in the development of their children.
 One of the fathers told me he could barely recognize his children uniform and he had never done homework for his five year son and I thought that was really serious and funny until another of the fathers dropped another shell when he said he can't remember the date of birth of his kids and does not know where his kids school resides. And l was totally amazed at the confessions of these men because these are some of the things women complain about their husbands not being involved in the vital developmental stages of their children all the time. There is this dis- connect with some fathers and their children which is an issue. Research have shown that some fathers hardly ever smile at their kids not to talk of rolling on the floor for fun play with their kids. I find this issue alarming because there are huge benefits in a father being involve in the child's upbringing and development .And that is why I felt I needed to write on this crucial issue and proffer solution to it by researching and writing out the benefits of a father to the child's development.

Benefits of the father's involvement in a child's development.
  
When playing, fathers tend to be more physical with their toddlers--wrestling, playing tag, and so on--while mothers emphasize verbal exchanges and interacting with objects, like toys. In nearly all instances, says Lamb, fathers are much more likely "to get children worked up, negatively or positively, with fear as well as delight, forcing them to learn to regulate their feelings."


Children whose fathers spend time with them doing activities tend to have better academic performance.


 Preteens whose fathers spent
leisure time away from the home (picnics, movies, sports, etc.) with them, shared meals with them, helped with homework or reading, and engaged in other home activities with them earned better grades in school, on average, than peers whose fathers spent less time with them. Similarly, teens whose fathers engaged in activities in the home and outdoors, spent leisure time, and talked with them earned better grades, on average, than teens whose fathers spent less time with them.


In a sense, then, fathers push children to cope with the world outside the mother-child bond, as classical theory argued. But more than this, fathering behavior also seems to make children develop a more complex set of interactive skills, what Parke calls "emotional communication" skills.


Children learn how to "read" their father's emotions via his facial expressions, tone of voice, and other nonverbal cues, and respond accordingly. Is Daddy really going to chase me down and gobble me up, or is he joking? Did I really hurt Daddy by poking him in the eye? Is Daddy in the mood to play, or is he tired?


 Children learn how to clearly communicate their own emotions to others. One common example is the child who by crying lets her daddy know that he's playing too roughly or is scaring her. Kids also learn to indicate when interactions aren't stimulating enough; they'll show they've lost interest by not responding or wandering off.


According to this article, Dr. Jennifer Baxter, Senior Research Fellow at the Australian Institute of Family Studies, will soon be presenting research in which she found:

 A strong relationship between fathers’ taking paternity leave and their subsequent involvement in their children’s lives.

Baxter states, “Father’s leave is linked to more involvement in childcare activities such as helping a baby to eat, changing nappies, getting up in the night, bathing and reading to a child, compared to fathers who took no leave.”

 Some evidence of better cognitive outcomes for kids whose fathers took paternity leave.

Further, if paternity leave is linked to greater paternal involvement later on in life, there’s an entire library of research that shows that in almost any way a child can be better off, they are better off for having an involved father in their lives (kids stay in school, do better in school, get into less trouble, get arrested less, get divorced less, have better health- just to name a few).

It's understandable that fathers are always busy and tired after a busy day but it's very important fathers devote time out of their busy schedule and have real fun with their kids to enable the benefits of their presence reflect on their development of our leaders of tomorrow.


Some of the benefits facts was adapted from Google.
Reference: Google

Bring Back Our Goals.

I don't have much interest in football but has a patriot Nigerian I decided to watch Nigerian-Iran match and l got so disappointed in our their dear team as they portrayed a complete lack of skill.

My Daddy

My Daddy is a smart man
He choose a good and pious woman to be our mother.

My Daddy is a responsible man he takes care of my mother and the kids needs.


My Daddy has a big heart
He receives and spends generously on us without regret.


My Daddy is great man
He is always there for us.


My Daddy is strong man
He protects and guards the family.


My Daddy is a great role model
He teaches us lessons of life and
self-discipline.


My Daddy is a nice man
He helps in establishing personal boundaries between mummy and the children.


My Daddy is a friendly man
He taught us how to ride bicycle and many fun games.


My Daddy is a honorable man
He sticks to his words of providing the best legacy for us.


My Daddy is a nice man.
He treats my mother and us with respect.


My Daddy is a kind man
He sees the best in us even when we were not at our best.


My Daddy is a loving man
He cherishes mummy and us.


My Daddy is a thoughtful man
He choose great and meaningful names for us.

My Daddy is a blessed man
He taught us the way of the lord.



This poem is dedicated to my Daddy and all Daddy's in the world.
Happy father's Day .daddy

Stress Management

What happens when you are stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response.



Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.



But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
 

What can you do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:

Find out what is causing stress in your life.
Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
Learn healthy ways to relieve stress and reduce its harmful effects.
How do you measure your stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.

It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently. Tracking your stress may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Tracking your stress can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better.

How can you avoid stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways to lower it.

You might try some of these ideas:

Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.

Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Do not take alcohol.

Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Or write down your worries and work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no."
Speak up. Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way.
Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. Talking to a friend or family member may help, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can you relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:

Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
Write. It can help to write about the things that are bothering you.
Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to with someone you trust.
Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Focus on the present. Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music. Try to look for the humor in life. Laughter really can be the best medicine.


Culled from WebMD

Stress Management

What happens when you are stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response.



Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.



But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
 

What can you do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:

Find out what is causing stress in your life.
Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
Learn healthy ways to relieve stress and reduce its harmful effects.
How do you measure your stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.

It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently. Tracking your stress may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Tracking your stress can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better.

How can you avoid stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways to lower it.

You might try some of these ideas:

Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.

Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Do not take alcohol.

Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Or write down your worries and work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no."
Speak up. Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way.
Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. Talking to a friend or family member may help, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can you relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:

Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
Write. It can help to write about the things that are bothering you.
Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to with someone you trust.
Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Focus on the present. Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music. Try to look for the humor in life. Laughter really can be the best medicine.


Culled from WebMD

Stress Management

What happens when you are stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response.



Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.



But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
 

What can you do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:

Find out what is causing stress in your life.
Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
Learn healthy ways to relieve stress and reduce its harmful effects.
How do you measure your stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.

It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently. Tracking your stress may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Tracking your stress can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better.

How can you avoid stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways to lower it.

You might try some of these ideas:

Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.

Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Do not take alcohol.

Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Or write down your worries and work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no."
Speak up. Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way.
Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. Talking to a friend or family member may help, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can you relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:

Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
Write. It can help to write about the things that are bothering you.
Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to with someone you trust.
Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Focus on the present. Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music. Try to look for the humor in life. Laughter really can be the best medicine.


Culled from WebMD

Stress Management

What happens when you are stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response.



Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.



But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
 

What can you do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:

Find out what is causing stress in your life.
Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
Learn healthy ways to relieve stress and reduce its harmful effects.
How do you measure your stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.

It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently. Tracking your stress may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Tracking your stress can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better.

How can you avoid stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways to lower it.

You might try some of these ideas:

Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.

Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Do not take alcohol.

Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Or write down your worries and work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no."
Speak up. Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way.
Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. Talking to a friend or family member may help, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can you relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:

Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
Write. It can help to write about the things that are bothering you.
Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to with someone you trust.
Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Focus on the present. Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music. Try to look for the humor in life. Laughter really can be the best medicine.


Culled from WebMD

Stress Management

What happens when you are stressed?
Stress is what you feel when you have to handle more than you are used to. When you are stressed, your body responds as though you are in danger. It makes hormones that speed up your heart, make you breathe faster, and give you a burst of energy. This is called the fight-or-flight stress response.



Some stress is normal and even useful. Stress can help if you need to work hard or react quickly. For example, it can help you win a race or finish an important job on time.



But if stress happens too often or lasts too long, it can have bad effects. It can be linked to headaches, an upset stomach, back pain, and trouble sleeping. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to fight off disease. If you already have a health problem, stress may make it worse. It can make you moody, tense, or depressed. Your relationships may suffer, and you may not do well at work or school.
 

What can you do about stress?
The good news is that you can learn ways to manage stress. To get stress under control:

Find out what is causing stress in your life.
Look for ways to reduce the amount of stress in your life.
Learn healthy ways to relieve stress and reduce its harmful effects.
How do you measure your stress level?
Sometimes it is clear where stress is coming from. You can count on stress during a major life change such as the death of a loved one, getting married, or having a baby. But other times it may not be so clear why you feel stressed.

It's important to figure out what causes stress for you. Everyone feels and responds to stress differently. Tracking your stress may help. Get a notebook, and write down when something makes you feel stressed. Then write how you reacted and what you did to deal with the stress. Tracking your stress can help you find out what is causing your stress and how much stress you feel. Then you can take steps to reduce the stress or handle it better.

How can you avoid stress?
Stress is a fact of life for most people. You may not be able to get rid of stress, but you can look for ways to lower it.

You might try some of these ideas:

Learn better ways to manage your time. You may get more done with less stress if you make a schedule. Think about which things are most important, and do those first.
Find better ways to cope. Look at how you have been dealing with stress. Be honest about what works and what does not. Think about other things that might work better.

Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat well. Don't smoke. Do not take alcohol.

Try out new ways of thinking. When you find yourself starting to worry, try to stop the thoughts. Or write down your worries and work on letting go of things you cannot change. Learn to say "no."
Speak up. Not being able to talk about your needs and concerns creates stress and can make negative feelings worse. Assertive communication can help you express how you feel in a thoughtful, tactful way.
Ask for help. People who have a strong network of family and friends manage stress better.
Sometimes stress is just too much to handle alone. Talking to a friend or family member may help, but you may also want to see a counselor.

How can you relieve stress?
You will feel better if you can find ways to get stress out of your system. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for you:

Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. Walking is a great way to get started.
Write. It can help to write about the things that are bothering you.
Let your feelings out. Talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when you need to with someone you trust.
Do something you enjoy. A hobby can help you relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever.
Learn ways to relax your body. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Focus on the present. Try meditation, imagery exercises, or self-hypnosis. Listen to relaxing music. Try to look for the humor in life. Laughter really can be the best medicine.


Culled from WebMD

Who is a Leader?

I keep wondering if leadership should be a thing of self-will or a post in which people should come to together and seek for a particular individual to rule over them. The weight and sacrifices expected of a great leader is so enormous to attain sweet success at the end .Which makes me ponder on this statement I jotted down from a leadership training I attended yesterday which says "when we use only our business skills to choose a leader without learning leadership skills we make a horrible mistake". To become a great leader it requires a great deal of skills. Leadership does not only entail talent,intelligence and in born attributes. I have come across people who seem not too important or who are not in the upper echelons in their families whose decisions matters a lot likewise in most offices also. I have also seen people who are respected only because of the positions they hold and when they cease to hold this positions they lose all the respect apportioned to them before.
                                                  Leadership can be learned by a purposeful person. One can learn to be a great leader.

John C Maxwell defines leadership as simply an influence I.e the ability to influence others around you to work even when they are not ready to work. leadership skills is teachable to become a great leader.

 Studies have shown that most great leaders were actually average or below average when they were in school. A large number of great leaders and men around the world were actually less performing pupils when they were in school and some even dropped out from school. This is to show that to become a great leader does not necessarily mean topping the class in school and coming out with excellent grades. The ability to influence depends on your ability to learn the leadership skills and exhibit it and become a great influence to your followers. It is believed that you are a great leader when people practice what you do and say because you have a great influence on them.

Some traits that defines a great leader:
1.Ability to show exemplary character.
2.Ability to know whether the followers actually follow your guidelines.
3.Ability to understand that the success of a great leader takes more than one person.
4.Ability to understand that "people don't care about who you are until they know you care".
5.Ability to command respect for your personality and not the position of authority you hold.
6.Ability to know that success is proportionate to your abilities.
7.Ability to understand the laws of leadership and execute the laws.
8.Ability to understand that leadership is a day to day process.

 I have come to learn that leadership is teachable and not just inborn,talent or inheritance to make a great leader. It is then we teach our dear young shall grow,our leaders of tomorrow leadership skills to make them great leaders of tomorrow.

Telling Historic Stories..

    Every one has a story to tell but the ability to create a lasting impression and make history in the lives of others lays on your selling points. No ideas is new someone somewhere must have thought of your same ideas but the ability to tell a new story makes the idea different and have a lasting impression on people. It is what we make significant spiced with latest creativity that catches the eyes of our potential buyers of our goods and services we want to offer.
  Then it is of most importance that we learn the skill of telling our story in a unique and attractive way. I remember attending a function in which we were all asked to introduce ourselves and say a few words about ourselves. I knew within me that I had to build my self esteem and confidence to say my profession because teaching profession has little regards nowadays so I was ready to tell my story in a different way. I stood up and introduced myself as an Educationist and told the gathering what I do has an educationist which actually was the job of a professional teacher. At the end of the programme everyone wanted to have my business card because I was able to stand out in the crowd.
   This scenario shows how powerful the creating of history lays in our hands. The story it tells people around you is that you could be trusted for some responsibilities and that your product and services is reliable. Telling our stories to make a history in the lives of others either by the product we sell or services we render we have to consider some factors to create ever lasting impression on our potential customers.
1. Four things to deliver your story with confidence
*self esteem
*standing up yourself
*confidence
*success
2.The 5C's:
  *confidence
  *competence
  *charcater
  *courage
  *connections
These and more factors will enable us tell a historic story of our ourselves,products and services we render any day anytime.

Living The Life.

living the life
Living the life with purpose and intention of striving to be the best in all ramifications is a dream come true with the grace of God. People with strong will to achieve success and make a statement in other people's life are usually rare but, when we finally find them we tend to accept all their teachings,doings and they become a role model and a source of inspiration to lots of people around them.
But then God has a way of doing his things in a magnificent way.
Another rare gem is gone! Professor Dora Akunyili will remain a role model for life.