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Parenting skills

"Your children will become who you are So be who you want them to be"

 Have thought about your parenting skills on your children.
  You don't have to be too harsh neither to soft for your kids.
 Children like testing their boundaries and having the reassurance that they are truly cared for.
 We need to watch our moods because it has a positive or negative influence on their development and that depends on our moods as the grow.

Children are surely watching our actions more than our words.
We need to liken our parenting role like the farmer who will reap what he sows.



 It is every parents dream to see their children become a responsible adult.
 It's planting time!!!

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l am a woman.

l am a woman and proud to be one. Despite all the multi tasking we have to do.God has endowed us with the strength to be a great woman,sister, mother,wife and a great friend. Though sometimes the load of responbilities saddled on our shoulders might be overwhelming and we might feel like screaming out.
Here is a famous quote to keep you striving on and never give up on yourself.

 "When we do the best we can,we never know what miracle is wrought in our life,or in the life of another" -Helen Keller


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Get your man talking.

My husband is my best friend and that is
why I love any opportunity to chat and chat with him like best friends.

 Trust us " women "we like talking over everything and getting response most especially verbally.

Sometimes when l get those grunting replies and shrugging of shoulder as response to my yearnings for an active conversation and I get those manly attitudes l feel disappointed and fail to reason that my husband is not a female after all. I usually activate my "silent mode",put on my "am a woman cap"and wonder at the huge gender differences we have. "Sometimes it's like talking to yourself "commented a friend "All you get is a nod or just a grunt" Studies have shown men can actually talk unlike what "wives" think.
The issue is that most times we are always in hurry to be the one talking and also giving answers to issues on ground.
 Most men speak only about 12,000 words a day while most women speak over 25,000.So we can all imagine the huge gap in the words we dish out each day.

 Learning the key to making a long conversation with our husbands will promote the fondness and communication in our marriages.Men get fed up easily especially when we start our blabbing over issues and yet fail to respect their opinions. They just decide to keep mute and give us their noncommittal response as usual.
 Every woman should learn some basic things on how to motivate your husband to talk to promote the marriage.
 How Do You Motivate Your Husband to Talk? By Brian Bercht

 1. If you ask him a question, then allow him time to answer without explaining to him why he is wrong.

 2. If you ask him a question, then allow him time to answer without needing to point out to him why his answer doesn’t make sense.

 3. If you ask him a question, let him know you want to hear his answer by – not responding (cross examining) to the first thing that does not line up or what seems to contradict a previous answer.

 4. Let him know that you will hold your tongue and not interrupt his answers. He needs to feel some respect, and this is demonstrated by allowing him to complete his thought process.

 5. Give him the questions in writing.

 6. Use the phrases, ‘tell me more about that’; ‘that’s interesting, what allowed you to do that?’

 7. Avoid the ‘Entrapment’ questions. These generally are questions where you are trying to lead your man into saying what you think he SHOULD say. Styling or re-phrasing your questions in such a way to make him answer ONLY the way you think he should is the same.

 8. Give him time to think. Let him get the nerve up to answer. Allow him time to formulate his thoughts. (Remember, thinking about something DOES NOT mean he is lying!!!)

 9. Try to avoid asking the ‘FEELING’ questions. Like ‘how did you feel when you were doing…’ ‘What did you feel after…’ ‘How did it feel when she said…’ Because quite likely he wasn’t thinking about any of these things.

 10. Use the phrase, ‘I’d be interested to hear how you see…’ or

 11. ‘I know you don’t really want to but it would mean a lot to me, if you told me about…’

 12. If you have done this, then, admit that you have not really listened to him in the past. So really listen to his response to that statement.

 13. Don’t start these conversations late at night.

 14. Set a time limit on these talks and let him know what it is, and then stick to it!

 15. Try sticking to one subject at a time. Avoid jumping around.

 16. Remember he is not ‘rational & sound’ in his mind.

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l dey pack go

Join me there
 I dey pack go the new Nigeria.


 Light dey for more than a week now.I come dey pack the light store for travelling bags,say make l go give my papa and mama for village small inside.
As l say make l go visit my parents for my home town nah train l enter go.Nah train wey dey run well well ooh . 30 minutes I dey for my village. All the goodies l buy come for P.man and my mama full for my village.
They tell me say all the things we get for town dey plenty for village too.l bring out the light from my bag say make l plug am,naso my broda tell me say him to get plenty light way dey don keep for house.
As i say make l stroll enter village greet my people l see baba ajala dey use mechanized farming for him farm,mama juwo dey use gas to fry puff puff and akara for oja oba.

As l say make I open my phone nah so text messages just enter like water for job interviews for big big man company.
" Chai !!!nah me be this " nah so l shout ooh For télévision nah so all our religious leaders dey preach word of God for their followers and everybody dey live in peace.

 Schools come dey regular well well , our youths come dey pass well well and nah so we dey chop plenty awards for oyinbo land for all the sectors of acada.

 See as food plenty for every where and youths come decisions say dey they no dey go oyinbo land again,say nah for our naija dey go waka come chop all the goodies of life.

Oooh nah for where dis mosquito come from?

As I say make l adjust my position for sleep nah so I wake to reality.
 Sweat full my body,l go check my phone nah caller tones sms full there. Ahh!!!where my travelling bag? Nah my old clothes full there come join with all the applications letters and C.Vs I don write tired.

 Abeg l wan pack go my dream naija ooh
 Make una no beg me ooh.
 Make una waka come join me for there.
 Laughing!!!

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Nuggets of wisdom

Get hold of yourself.

How well do you know the names of fruits?

What is the name of this fruit?

Who needs more discipline?The female child or the male child?

On a lighter mode.
Who got more firm and disciplined upbringing?
The boy child or the girl child?

Growing up as a girl child was amidst strong words and lots of discipline."You are a girl" "You need to learn values"was like a ringing tone for my siblings and l(five girls). I remember those days when my mum was on us like the way ants surrounds sugar.(laughing)We had no breathing space.
She was always at every nooks and crannies waiting for you to  make one silly mistake and you are in for lots of beatings or yabis according to the level of your silliness.
Chai! Those times was not funny at all  ooh . I remember those days we used to  have siblings meetings to decide whether our parents were actually our biological ones.
(imagine ooh we couldn't understand the reasons for such disciplines)
Teens age was the worst of all.Our routine was just school and back home.We were programmed and you have to follow it religiously.There was no room for visitations to friends and you can imagine any day one of us was unlucky to be sent on errands,once you step out of the house just know that a spy is stalking your movements.(**winks my mum hmmm Laughing)and unfortunately for you,you  met one of your classmate on the way who is a male and you decided to exchange pleasantries Chai!!!you and that boy go know that day..... .......
I remember when we started assisting to sell in my mum's shop.All those admirers who had no opportunity to chat with us saw this as a great opportunity to interact with my sisters and l, so we were selling at a high rate.Trust naija guys they were ready to buy even things they don't need just to talk to us. Hmmm !!!little did we know that some of our co-shop owners were loosing customers and wanted a way of retrieving their customers back. They reported to my parents.
The day my mum met some of our regular customers Ahhh!!!. ......it's another story for another day. ....
It was when I got into higher institution and started interacting with other girls that l realised it wasn't only my mum that was harsh and it wasn't only my sisters and l that had the disciplined up bringing. It was almost every girl child had it.

Most times when I remember those days I usually roll with laughter because I have come to appreciate my parents for such upbringing.
Likewise I also wonder why the male child wasn't treated the way the girl child is being treated.
And so I ask these questions anytime I discuss this issue with friends.
Who needs more discipline while growing up
The male child or the female child?
And ls it necessary to be firm on the girl child for proper upbringing nowadays?

Your contributions is highly welcomed.

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Contribution of the day.

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Steps to Taking A Great Selfie Linking it with Personal Development

Step 1:Find the perfect lighting/location:-find out what you want to develop and improve on.

Step 2 :Achieve the perfect Angle:-everyone has a "good side"but we all need to find out the angle you are still lacking.

Step 3:Do not even look at the camera:-We all need to tell ourselves the truth by not minding and looking at what stares at us in the camera.

Step 4:Be artistic :-We all want to improve our personal development.Then we need to be creative.Try coming up with different solutions to the aspects we want to develop on.

Step 5: Filter Not once,Double or even Triple Times.We need to do a lot of filtrating process.

Step 6: Caption:-Take the ideas up and test the aspect we have improve on.we can even employ a mentor or use available resources online to checkmate.

Step 7: Delete:-At this stage we need to focus on the filtered and tested aspects and let go of others.

Step 8: Bonus Step:-Now that we have spent time and resources to achieve a great selfie or not.Seat back and analyze the outcome either prefect or not.if not perfect then you can take the steps of the selfie again.

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Distinguishing Mark

Let's all liken all our endeavours and dreams like the job of a blacksmith who keeps hammering on a particular point to get a distinguishing mark. www.nafisustain.com

Distinguishing Mark

Let's all liken all our endeavours and dreams like the job of a blacksmith who keeps hammering on a particular point to get a distinguishing mark. www.nafisustain.com

Handwritings on papers.

Where are my handwritten words?

 When was the last time you wrote a letter or jot your thoughts down on a paper?

 Long long time ago l guess. Remember back in those days we used to write letters and jot down our thoughts and activities. It was fun and a means of showing ones skills at conveying one's thoughts through writing.
 Remember those times we learned every spellings,knew almost every meanings to words and loved to show off our new handwriting.
 I remember a naughty friend of mine who was always ready to make circles on your grammatical blunders and call you names of those blunders you have spelt for days. (Laughing)what fun we had and it made us better. Oooh!
what excitement we had when expecting a letter and it finally arrived after days of delay.
l used to know an Aunty who kept most letters she had and lamented it for memories. Hmmm! you wonder.

 "It was a bond between couples then because they had a challenge of composing more romantic poems than the former one written and in painstakingly handwritings to impress your loved ones "said an older friend of mine.

 Our hands,fingers worked and our brains was challenged because we had no check spell to correct the mistakes we make.

 Phones and Laptops are exciting to use and less stress on our fingers but our handwritings on papers was more chanlleging,original and more personal for me.



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My impact of lately

Isn't it amazing just some few weeks ago we were still in the year 2014 hanging down our unwanted characters, listing out for new watch word and in his mercies we are in the month of February....SURPRISE
 Tick tick says the clock and we'll soon be winding the year up.
Ah! we exclamate We wonder at our top achievements.
 Have we thought about a new dimension to our yearly achievements?
How was our daily activities with others?
What has been our impact on people's lives? Have people maintained relationship with us or stay apart due to our horrible attitudes?
And the list is endless. ......
Taking account of our impact in someone's life is important. It doesn't have to be monetary.
 Just kind words to lift up a sad heart is an achievement.

 I guess my impact on people's lives should be my watch word lately.

 What’s your watch word lately?
 Looking forward to your contributions. Let's get talking.


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Change is contagious....Pass it on

It can be frustrating and stressful for managers of an organisation when they dream of seeing changes in their organisation and discover that they are the only driving force for a change in their organisation.
Change is a constant thing in life.It usher in new innovations and makes our organisations grow.
For a manager of an organisation to win the confidence of co-workers and have a joint driving force for a positive impact in the organisation.The manager must be convinced of the changes first,act the changes and be able to sell the new ideas to co-workers.
A lot of workers don't feel comfortable when new techniques is spring up suddenly and that is why it has to be done with almost every workers support and understanding.

Change is contagious.Pass it on

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