Being a parent can sometimes wear us out that we sometimes tend to forget that romantic part of us and afraid or don't see why we should be a hard working parent and still have the sparkles in our marriages.
Romantic?yes. Romance in the midst of juggling your career and trying to be a good parent .The kind of job we do, area we live,partner,economy and house chores sometimes don't help matters.
Sometimes, its either the husband or wife that notices the sparkle that used to be there is gradually fading away without the other noticing.In some cases some couples might decide to ignore and be in denial that the sparkle is not longer there. A friend once told me to wake up to the black man reality of marriage and leave the sparkles to the "movies" when we were discussing and conversing about marital life. But should re kindling the sparkles in marriage be for the "movies" alone ?Is there no fun when we set the fireworks sparkling in our homes? Do we wait till it's no longer bearable and we start thinking of a way out?These are some questions we should all ask ourselves.
Rekindling the sparkles back to our marriage should be a joint effort by both partners communicating regularly and making some lists of what to do to make them Romeo and Juliet again.
Here are some lists of ways to bring back the sparkles and goose bumps to our lives.
*Communicate on what's missing in the union and make it a joint effort to find solution to it.
*Bring out the Beautiful you back. Look good, dress well, use perfume, flirt and attract each their attention. lf you have added weight get some exercise done,skipping is really a good indoor exercise for mothers and husbands should hit the gym center.
*Reminise good times you had together. Watch the video from your wedding or wedding album together to revisit the good times and places. Talk about the first time you met,characters you love most about each other and encourage each other to stick to it.
*Surprise each other with lovely gifts ,plan on a date without the kids,or even getting away for some days together this brings back the excitement back.
*Get romantic and caring.Make it a habit to touch each other its important to have physical contact with your spouse.Hold hands,share hugs before leaving for work and kisses after regularly this promote the sparkles.
*Get naughty with each other.play pranks,get eye contact with your spouse and wink, exciting games and make attempt to woo each other like it used to be those early days in your marriage.
*Get intimate. Asking each other fun questions is a great way to open new conversations and get to know each other better. On a lazy weekend together, lie down in bed or on the couch, and ask each other a series of intimate and yet revealing questions.
*And most importantly pray about it with God all things are possible .Hoping to see the sparkles in your eyes as you read my write -up.
