Treat your husband like a man.

" Love is always present,it is just a matter of feeling it or not"

Sometimes our husbands feel jealous or left out in the fun and don't usually get our attention as much as they want.As mothers and wives we are so busy juggling in between our career and our roles at home and also aspiring to have a loving and lasting marriage.We tend to forget our husbands...our first baby (winking).

Last time l checked men.....husbands crave for our attention and when they don't get what they want they seek it elsewhere to satisfy the gap we created ourselves.

Do you push your husband needs to the bottom of the list and place your kids,friends,family and career top above him?
Here are some things we can try out to treat our husbands like a man and make him feel wanted.

*Attend to his request: Small needs we think is irrelevant might matter alot to your husband and make him feel good when attended to.

*Seek and Respect his Advice: Involve your husband in decision making,seek his opinion and don't undermine his contributions especially towards the upbringing of the children.Instead of disagreeing with his decisions learn ways to bring up your concerns without being critical.

*Feel proud and comfortable with your husband in the presence of other people.

*Express and Appreciate his and your love/care verbally and non verbally:Acknowledge his care and support by saying "Thank you" "l care" or "l love you" in whatever form you like.Also express these feelings non verbally too.Studies have shown that a large percent of communication is through non verbal communication.Use body language such touching,facial expression,tone of our voice and body movement.

*Be Active and Believe in  your husband's career: Be ready to listen to fears,difficulties and achievement in his place of work.This helps to  boost their self -esteem,makes them feel important when you support their struggles.Encouraging them to purse their dreams,celebrate them when they make a success and assure them when things don't go right.

*Don't Prolong ConflictThe best outcome of conflict is the strengthening of our relationship. Admit it when your are wrong or wronged by your husband.No successful marriage is conflict free so don't deny your husband his needs when there is some misunderstandings.Don't create that gap yourself.

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