"Mum you don't have to yell all the time"

Trust me am a great mother.l do all my possible best to be a super mother to my kids. Being a human being l have my own shortcomings as a mother despite being a super mummy l claim to be****winks Someone once asked these questions.. "Does yelling gets our children's attention" "Does yelling make children do what their parents asked them to do" I yell when my kids gets naughty and l had tried different means to stop them. "Stop jumping on the dressing table" "Stop sticking your tongue out" "Don't run " And the list is endless...(laughing) Then l received a shock when of recent my daughter said to me. "Mummy you don't have to shout at me" Hello !!! You can imagine the look on my face. Then l realized l had to take a grip of myself no matter how tried l may be and how annoying the scene they must have created. "Don't stop children from being children" Yelling at a problem does not usually make it go away-it only makes matters worse. Being a mother and balancing lots of other stuffs can take out lots of energy from you and the last thing you want is your little ones being naughty.But taking intentional steps towards stopping the act will really go a long way in the lives our kids and ourselves too. Studies have shown that some children heart gets harden and their trust bond to their parents drops or gradually breaks when the only medium of communicating is through yelling. Children know when they are in control.Stay in control parents by understanding different situations and how to handle it,because children will always be children and will always make us blow-up and yell again. Sometimes we need to put ourselves in their shoes to understand how they feel when we yell at them. So next time you want to yell just consider these points l thought of in the process of what l call."mummy you don't have to yell at me" Taking time to relax and reviewing the action in your head before reacting makes things easier. Example:A two year old who messed up on her body rather than sitting on the potty is yet to understand her body system by saying to her mummy when she wants to poo. Communication to the children by taking interest in what they do makes them pay attention to us rather than shouting from across the room and asking what they are up to. Remember we are like a mirror to our children and they practice what we do more.They just want to be like daddy or mummy.Don't teach your children to become a yelling adult. Most times just close your mouth,breathe in to calm down or just simply walk away from the situation for awhile. Conclusion... It's takes a lot of determination and hardwork to stop yelling but when we work on our self-control we will get there. Talking as a matter- of -fact drives home your message than yelling to children. Save yourself lots of energy,emotions and stop yelling. Be the superb mum you want to be... www.nafisustain.com