Contribution of the day.

"To be a manager, one must be able
to manage her own relationship
with the people around her, as
well as the relationships among
her subordinates. Just being
perfect in paperwork and
operations does not make one a
good manager"
Sophie L. Rose

Understanding the levels of hierarchy in ones place of work saves an individual lots of unnecessary trouble and makes you understand your office politics.
Understand who you direct your reservations and complaints to especially when you work with people who have self esteem issues and are highly covetous.

Nursery Fun Day...

Learning with fun...
Nursery Fun Day...
All work no play makes Jack a dull Boy.
While having fun pupils were taught the letter sounds,numbers,shapes and the colour for the day...RED...
Everyone appeared on red....

The day was fun! fun!!fun!!!

Tip of the day

     Tip of the day.

"It's hard to improve when you have no one but yourself to follow"
   John C Maxwell

Tip of the day

"You've got to get up every morning with determination if you're going to go to bed with satisfaction"
    George Lorimer

Tchelete...GoodLife

My goal in life was to pursue
      the good life.
             Oleg Cassini
"The definition of success to me
is not necessarily a price tag,
not fame, but having a good
life, and being able to say I did
the right thing at the end of the
day"
Jeremy Luke
         Tchelete
       Good life
The good life is a term for the life that one would like
to live, or for happiness,simple pleasures that make you happy.
Living the good life means different things to different people.
Taking into account what makes life good one would realize most things we hold on tight to are not really worth it.God's love to us is so tremendous.We have free air to breath and free land to sow and reap in million folds.Not to talk of all the dreams we see coming alive.And that is why we need to look at ourselves in the mirror and say "it's time to appreciate the good life we live""
Living the good life is about overcoming fear and
replacing it with anticipation and joy. It's about chasing
your dreams and finding yourself.
QUESTIONS:
Do you face every aspect of your life with happiness?
Do you live the life by appreciating the life that you live?
Do you care for people around you?
Do maintain a balance life?
Are you open to new ideas?
Do you foster relationship?
Accepting ones short comings and become open to new greater and bigger possibilities makes living the good life effortlessly.
And lots more.......
My Thoughts
I want to live the good life by not dwelling in the past,forgive and forget,become a cheerful giver,be myself,smile often,visit new places,foster relationships,exceed in my passion and most importantly
Where are my handwritten words?

 When was the last time you wrote a letter or jot your thoughts down on a paper?

 Long long time ago l guess. Remember back in those days we used to write letters and jot down our thoughts and activities. It was fun and a means of showing ones skills at conveying one's thoughts through writing.
 Remember those times we learned every spellings,knew almost every meanings to words and loved to show off our new handwriting.
 I remember a naughty friend of mine who was always ready to make circles on your grammatical blunders and call you names of those blunders you have spelt for days. (Laughing)what fun we had and it made us better. Oooh!
what excitement we had when expecting a letter and it finally arrived after days of delay.
l used to know an Aunty who kept most letters she had and lamented it for memories. Hmmm! you wonder.

 "It was a bond between couples then because they had a challenge of composing more romantic poems than the former one written and in painstakingly handwritings to impress your loved ones "said an older friend of mine.

 Our hands,fingers worked and our brains was challenged because we had no check spell to correct the mistakes we make.

 Phones and Laptops are exciting to use and less stress on our fingers but our handwritings on papers was more chanlleging,original and more personal for me.



 Nafi's Random Musings
@ www. presence in my good life.
Not forgetting to play Mafikizolo's hit song
   Tchelete....
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What makes a wedding ceremony have a lasting impression on you?

"Love is composed of a single soul inhibiting two Bodies"

   What's makes a wedding ceremony have a lasting impression on you?

There is always something magical about weddings no matter the numbers of weddings one must have witnessed anytime you attend a new one,there is always a whoa effect.

What creates a magical wedding and have a lasting impression varies from people's opinion.With the latest fashion trends now(blocking colours) we are either searching for a new style to sew,cakes to bake,dance steps, or an avenue to meet old and new friends.

As l set to get dressed for the party,memories of my wedding day came me...***winks***
What l remembered most was the wise sayings of the cleric that officiated the programme.
How time flies yet his words keeps ticking in my head.tick tick tick!!!
Hmmmm! So much words.....

"I love you,not for what you are,But for what lam when lam with you"

The Gist....
The venue was breath-taking,the hall was artfully decorated...We had lots of sumptuous meals and sweet drinks to push down the heap of food we had consumed.
I saw lots of beautifully dressed women and men any international model would die to have those clothes and shapes...Make-up's or make over*winks*,music,chandeliers..Lots of beautiful shoes (ooh l love shoes these days)

The couples made everyone jealous when they were ushered in for the reception.They danced so gracefully(l said to myself Kaffy must have thought them the dance steps).lt was such a beautiful wedding I didn't want to leave.

My Thoughts.....
What made the magical wedding had a lasting impression on me was the words of the cleric that officiated the wedding ceremony.
His words......
"If only we prepare for our marriages the way we prepare for our weddings.Then we will hardly have lots of marriage issues in our society"

Food for thought for everyone...

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Father &Daughter

   How fathers influence daughters

       by Elizabeth Weiss McGoleric

A girl’s father is one of the most influential people in her life, from infant to toddler to tween to teen. Learn why Dad has such a big impact on his little girl’s development into a strong, confident woman.

A father's influence in his daughter's life shapes her self-esteem, self-image, confidence and opinions of men. "How Dad approaches life will serve as an example for his daughter to build off of in her own life, even if she chooses a different view of the world," says Michael Austin, associate professor of philosophy at Eastern Kentucky University and editor of Fatherhood - Philosophy for Everyone: The Dao of Daddy.

"What matters in the father-daughter relationship is that Dad seeks to live a life of integrity and honesty, avoiding hypocrisy and admitting his own shortcomings, so that she has a realistic and positive example of how to deal with the world. He should try to model a reflective approach to life's big questions so that she can seek to do the same," he adds.

Dads and daughters: From infant to toddler:

We now live in a culture where Dad is an equal partner in care giving. From day one, dads are encouraged to be hands-on, changing diapers, giving baths, putting Baby to sleep and calming her cries. That presence and effort is the beginning of a very important relationship.

According to Austin, this quality time together is crucial at all stages of a girl's life. "Dads need to spend time with their infant daughter, taking care of her physical needs and supporting her Mom," he explains. And once the little lady starts toddling around, "[i]t's essential that Dad gets down on the floor — on her level — and plays with her," Austin says.

Fathers and daughters: From tween to teen:

It's those pesky "hormonal" years that can often have dads shying away from their moody and sometimes standoffish daughter. When there's a tween girl in the house, "[d]ads should focus on cultivating a trusting relationship so that their daughters feel secure talking with them about what's going on in their lives," Austin explains. "When necessary, dads should apologize and ask for forgiveness, as this both shows respect and love to our daughters and heals the hurts that are inevitable in daily life together."

As a girl continues to grow and her teen years become fraught with complicated issues, dads should continue to work on building a trusting relationship, give affection and support her as she learns more about who she is and what kind of person she wants to become, Austin says. "It's imperative that, no matter what, dads avoid the temptation to pull away or withdraw during this sometimes challenging stage of growing up."

A father's influence on a daughter's self-image:

A dad's involvement in his daughter's life is a crucial ingredient in the development of a young woman's self-esteem. Austin identifies positive elements of "common sense" parenting for dads so they can help support their daughter's self-image and curb any possibility of low self-esteem: Verbal encouragement, being consistently present in her life, being alert and sensitive to her feelings, taking time to listen to her thoughts and taking an active interest in her hobbies. "It's important to actually do these things, which can sometimes be quite challenging," Austin adds. Direct involvement and encouragement by her father will help diminish a girl's insecurity and increase her confidence in her own abilities.

How dads influence their daughter's relationships:

The type of men that women date and have long-term relationships with are also directly related to the kind of relationship a girl has with her father. Obviously, the hope is that the father figure in a girl's life will aim to skew that young lady's opinions of men in a positive way. "He must, first and foremost, treat his daughter with respect and love. Whether or not he is married to or still together with his daughter's mom, showing respect to her mother is essential as well," explains Austin. "He must also value women as human beings, and not as persons to be used. Daughters will see what their dads believe about women by how they value and respect women, or by how they fail to do so."

Reference:Google

Are you ready for your child's homework today?

"Homework should inspire student rather than bore them"
    Sharon Marshall Lockett

INTRODUCTION

Has schools resumes fully in the country,one of those things parents and children are usually guilty of is not making attempt to do their homework.
The truth is homework can sometimes be time consuming,the children are tried or the parent is so busy that they hardly have time to assist their children in doing their homework.

Homework has a positive effect on the children when they do homework given at school.When children show their parents the work load of homework ,we get discouraged and dont actually guide the children properly.The essence of homework is to bond the relationship between the parents and children and make parents participate in the teaching of the children.Once we are not in a hurry or distracted to participate in home activities,children get eager to learn more.

WHAT IS HOMEWORK?
Homework can be defined as tasks assigned to students by teachers that are intended to be carried out during nonschool hours. This definition excludes (a) in-school guided study (although homework is often worked on during school); (b) home study courses, and (c) extracurricular activities such as sports teams and clubs.

RESEARCH.:
According to Harris Cooper (2007), the most common variation in homework assignments relates to its content or subject matter. Independent of content, homework assignments also vary in their purpose or goal. Practice homework assignments ask students to go over material already presented in class so as to reinforce learning and facilitate mastery of specific skills.

During the past decade, according to Gill and Schlossman (1996), "leading educational spokespersons have celebrated homework as essential to raise educational standards, foster high academic achievement, upgrade the quality of the labor force, and link family and school in a common teaching mission"

APPROPRIATE AMOUNTS OF HOMEWORK

Based on these results and the experience of teachers, consensus has emerged regarding rough guidelines for the amount of homework that should be assigned to students in different grade levels. The National PTA and the NEA suggest that homework for children in grades K-2 is most effective when it does not exceed ten to twenty minutes each day. In grades 3 through 6, children can benefit from 30 to 60 minutes per day. Junior high and high school students can benefit from more time on homework and the amount might vary from night to night. These recommendations are consistent with the conclusions reached by studies of the effectiveness of homework

BENEFITS OF HOMEWORK                                 (1)Homework teaches students about time management. (2)Homework teaches students how to setting prioritie  (3)Homework helps teachers determine how well the lessons are being understood by their students.                    (4)Homework teaches students how to problem solve.   (5)Homework gives students another opportunity to review the class material.   (6) Homework gives parents a chance to see what is being learned in school.  (7) Homework teaches students that they may have to do things – even when they don’t want to.              (8) Homework teaches students how to take responsibility for their part in the educational process.   (9)Homework teaches students how to work independently.  (10)Homework teaches students the importance of planning, staying organized and taking action.

CONCLUSION
Both parents,teachers and students should take advantage of the huge benefits of homework.we should endeavor to discuss about the homework to ensure that children understands exactly what is needed to be done.
Giving out lots of encouragement and celebrating their efforts will actually go a long way in making homework fun.

Reference :
    Hot Chalk.com
    Education.com
    School family.com
    Global post America's world news
     Nafi's notes
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What does it mean to discipline a child?

     Discipline - what is discipline?

People often confuse 'discipline' with 'physical punishment', but they are quite different. Discipline is about teaching. It helps a child learn what is expected and to gradually learn how to control their own behaviour.

You don't need to physically punish children to teach them. They learn best when they feel safe and secure and 'good' behaviour is encouraged. The key is having a close relationship with your child as well as clear rules and realistic expectations.

What is discipline?

Parents can worry about the best ways to discipline children as there are so many different views. For many of us growing up, discipline usually meant punishment. It often left us feeling hurt, upset and unfairly treated.

Discipline is really about guidance. It is a way to keep children safe as they find out about the world. They need to learn how to manage their feelings, impulses and actions so they can learn and get on with others. Warm but firm parenting that builds on your child's strong desire to please you is the best way to guide them.

Discipline is also about helping children learn the values that are important to your family. Children learn to make good choices because they want to do the right thing, not just to avoid punishment. This teaches them self-discipline.

A positive approach to discipline is less stressful for children and makes parenting more enjoyable. It takes patience but is worth it in the long run. It uses love instead of fear to teach life-long skills, and strengthens the bond with your child.

Learning what is expected.               Children are not born knowing how to behave. They rely on you to teach and guide them in ways that suit their understanding and ability. They need you to show them what to do calmly and patiently. Just as we all learn by practice, you may need to repeat a lesson many times until they can do it without your help.

What parents can do

There are things you can do to help your child know what is expected and to learn self-discipline.

Plan ahead :Thinking ahead about your needs and your child's needs can help prevent a difficult situation. When you go shopping your toddler might get bored, or become tired or hungry. They act out and you get stressed. Plan to shop in short bursts when the shops aren't busy, and your toddler isn't hungry or tired. Let them help you in some way.

Teach them your values :Talk to your child about why you want them to do something, not just because you say so. They will learn what is important to your family, eg. doing things together, listening to each other and speaking with respect.

It is also important to be a good role model by acting in ways you expect of them. Children have a strong sense of justice and fairness and if they see you acting in ways that don't match what you say, they might resist what you tell them. They are more likely to copy what you do.

Reward 'good' behaviour: When children know what is expected and are praised and encouraged for doing this, it builds on their desire to please you. They are 'rewarded' when you notice the good things they do, and when you tell them how proud and happy it makes you feel.

Keep material rewards to a minimum or your child may learn to do things only if there is the promise of a treat.

Build responsibility: Children learn responsibility by being part of making decisions rather than just following what parents say. Even young children can be involved in making simple decisions.

This doesn't mean letting children do what they want without making sure they stay safe. It means guiding them toward good choices by:

Helping them learn how to problem-solve and think about consequences. This builds confidence and skills so they can make bigger decisions as they mature letting them learn by doing. They may not always choose what you like but as long as the choice is safe for them and for others, they will learn to trust themselves and to know that you trust them to make good choices encouraging them when they make mistakes. Mistakes teach children how to deal with frustration and disappointment. Encourage them to have another go.

Adapted from
WOMEN'S AND CHILDREN'S
HEALTH NETWORK
PARENTING AND CHILD HEALTH

Nuggets of Wisdom

            Nuggets of wisdom

"In all the strictness of my upbringing,there was no hint of child Abuse"
         Billy Graham

"Dont stop children from being children"
  

"To bring up a child in the way he should go- travel that way yourself"
         Josh Billings

lnternational Day For The Girl-Child.

“ I raise up my voice-not so I can shout but so that those without a voice can be heard...we cannot succeed when half of us are held back." Malala Yousafzai Get inspired and get empowered today.

Contribution of the day

Contribution of the day.

If you don't pay attention to children.They will give you things and perform actions that will get your attention.

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My thoughts today as schools resume today.

Happy Resumption...

My job as a teacher has given me the privilege and special honor to build lives.l see teaching profession as a divine job,but we can only feel privileged,honoured if the way we think about ourselves is in a positive way because how we think affects our whole being.

When we think richly about ourselves and develop our self -esteem it radiates around us and reflects positively in the lives children we teach.

Who is a great teacher then?

*A teacher is a role model.

*A teacher is a person of knowledge.

*A teacher is a researcher.

*A teacher is a friend/helper.

*A teacher is an educator who impacts knowledge.

*A teacher is a leader who counsel his/her pupils.

It is very important that as teachers we must have lots passion for their job.A teacher is a researcher and must be ready to study and discover new things.Don't stay stagnant and say what will be,will be.Ways of researching is attending seminars,workshops,browsing on the internet,reading books and personal mentorship with people in the know.

Passing through the above ways and more makes one conscious of our diction,attitude,sense of dressing,teaching methods,moods,sense of reasoning.

Every teacher must have their personal goals and objectives on the children they teach.Such as :building up great minds.

                             :building up self confident
                              child.

Watch Words For Teachers As Schools Set To Resume Today....

T-thorough,tolerant and truthful.

E-effective,efficient and encouraging.

A-accessible,approachable and adaptable.

C-courteous,creative and communicative.

H-helpful,hopeful and humorous.

E-excellent,ebullient and erudite.

R-realistic,reliable and reputable.

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Do you want to stop losing customers?

  

Do you know what bad customer service does to your business?

Your business loses customer patronage.

      Stop losing customers.

Research suggests that more than 60% of customers will leave your company because of a negative experience.

That would never happen if your employees thought like business owners and put the needs and desires of your customers first, instead of their own.

Yes,this works like magic but how do you get your employees think like the business owners.

Here are some tips to try out....

*Treat your employees well as you like to treat yourself.

*Bring out the best out of your employees.

*Listen to your employees desires to help them grow

*Bring in daily reminders of your missions.

*Make every job the most important job at your company.

*Make it okay to fail.

*Use different incentives to motivate your employees.

*Don't make the mistake of losing your star employees over small issues.

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Question of the day.

What is the name of this food?

And it is popularly eaten by the__________

Sallah things on point!!!

Where the party at?
Nafi's random musings is having a great time live at lbadan...one of the largest city in Africa.

Wishing everyone a blissful sallah.

My independence day message

    Whoa! its independence day.
So,what event did you attend today?
Did you put on green,white,green outfit today?
Was it eventful day for you?
Nafi's random musings had an eventful day today.....
Read about the enlightenment l had today.

ARE YOU A 21st CENTURY PARENT?

"The ruin of a nation begins in the homes of it's people"
   Ghanaian proverb

Today l decided l wanted to spend my independent day attending a seminar to add value which was  tagged "The 21st century parenting" because l passionately believe in being a better parent to produce a super child who will eventually become a great leader of tomorrow.
The event was power packed with speakers who have authority in parenting.
And this is why l have this important message to every parents nationwide this independent day.

My independent day message......

Clarion call to parents.
Wake up parents.
Wake up to your responsibilities.
Let's bring up our child in the way of the Lord so that when they grow up they don't depart from it.
A superstar child is not born but is raised.

As l write this article l remember this words
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men"
Fredrick Douglas

And that is why we need to take into account how serious we take our parenting role.We want a greater nation,a super leader and God fearing youths
Yes,we all want all these.....
But what role have we played as a parent in making our children all these.
Zig Ziglar says "If you live by example you make few rules"

QUESTIONS:
Do we leave our children to themselves?

Do we communicate to our children?

Do we influence our children?

Do we inspire our children?

Do we dedicate time to them?

Do we understand their personality?

These and more questions keep  throbbing in head.

So l say to myself ...l must intentionally decide to make this nation a greater nation by making my home a successful one first.By being a responsible parent to create a better youth and therefore great leaders of tomorrow.
Should every parent make this clarion call and work towards it.
Then we are assured of a better tomorrow in the hands of our children.

"To build strong children we cannot always build the future for our youth,but we can build our youth for the future"
"Franklin Delano Roosevelt

Happy independence day by being a 21st century parent.

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