Tips on when couples disagree on parenting style.

 When couples disagree on parenting skills.


As parents we aspire to make our kids greater than us.Ensuring this entails lot's of parenting skills. Sometimes we may want to address issues or discpline our kids in our own style but usually have our spouses not agreeing to our style parenting.
As couples we are not the same individual,there is bound to be a disagreement in agreeing to a kind of parenting style.Our upbringing, exposure,environment we grew up and beliefs influences our styles of parenting.
Mummy might like talking one on one with the kids while Daddy likes the firm hand with the kids.
Definitely couples with differences will argue over how to discipline their children.Most couples have opposite qualities which attracts each other . Unfortunately
these very qualities that pull us together often become those that threaten to push us apart.Things will be fine if parents can use the following guidelines and agree at a point the kind of parenting style they want for their kids.

*Couples should back-up each other decisions.

*Make each other look good. Both daddy and mummy should be the great guy to their kids.


*Talk about the kind of parenting style you both want when you are both calm and in a good mood.


*Agree to a particular style of parenting style different issues.


*Make your child understand the reasons why "dad" or "mum" is taking a decision and don't paint your spouse bad in front of your child.


*Get information on your spouse's upbringing, the environment they grew up and their beliefs to understand their points and know how deep their feelings are  on parenting . Because these points influences and affects our reasoning as parents.


*Avoid getting into an argument but rather try and stay calm and listen to each other.


*Take a time out when things tends to get out of hand.


*Seek professional advice if you can't cope anymore.

My random musings today. ...

And I wonder why we have to go through all the hurdles of life.
And I wonder why we have to follow the step by step principles of life.
And I wonder why we have to fall into a situation before we begin to appreciate the life that we live.
And I wonder why we don't just accept that our creator always have something in stock for us when things don't work the way we want.

Early morning random musings that came to my mind while drooling over a very hot cup of tea.(wondering why I made it this hot)
It never cease to amaze me the bountiful mercies and blessings always there for us to tap,if only we will be patient.The joy of living the life should be enough to want to extend it to all that we do as an individual.
Gladly accepting our roles entrusted on us and the zeal to wanting to achieve the best will always drive us on to attain the best.Doing the best as a parent, as a brother,as a sister, as an office holder or whatever we are held responsible for should be a way of influencing the joy of life unto  others.

My wandering mind wonders why these thoughts are coming to me.
Oooh! must have been the young guy I met some days ago doing his responbilities with joy and rubbing it off those who have encounter with him.
Ah!must have been the situations I have been through of late.
Yeah!must have been accepting the hurdles of life and acknowledging that our CREATOR truly has something beautiful in stock for us.

A cheerful Heart.

How much do you know about  cheerfulness?

According to a new study in the American Journal of Cardiology , having a cheerful disposition and outlook on life could protect you from heart attack.


A cheerful heart is good medicine for the body and soul.If we can go through our daily activities with cheerfulness,we will have a positive attitude towards anything that comes our way .Cheerfulness comes with alots of goodies such as love,enjoyment,inspiration and fulfilment. No wonder cheerful people attracts others to themselves like "sugar attracts ants".


A cheerful individual has a great gift of life which is a valuable asset.Life seems easy to such an individual because they are not unnecessarily angry or grumpy about things.


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This life is too short for one to be miserable while we have the option to be happy with our lives with cheerfulness whether things are going on smoothly in our lives or otherwise. Cheerfulness comes from within us which radiates like a shining star to all our endeavours.

Readers are leaders

                   Readers are leaders


Ways to encourage children to read,make reading fun and part of their daily activities.



1.Read to your child starting at an early age.
2.As your children grow introduce them to books that match their interests and hobbies.
3.Read together throughout the day,every day.
4.Fill your child's room with books.
5 .Offer to reward your children if they read.
6.Scatter reading materials throughput your houses in every room.
7 . Read both fiction and non fiction tittles.
8.Choose books about topics,subjects or themes your child loves.
9.Make sure your children see you regularly read for yourself.
10.Visit the library  and book stores regularly.

For every parents

Every Parent wants a better life for their children than the ones the parents went through when growing up .Agreed,education is the best legacy any parent can give to their children. But there are some many other things we need to incorporate in the lives of our children as we observe  our parenting roles to make them better off.


 1.Practise religion and belief in God.
We will be doing a great harm to our kids if we're practising our various religions and not encouraging our offsprings to participate actively in the doctrines for them to become a God fearing adults.


 2.Stand up for themselves
Statistics have shown that 1 in every 6 children is bullied on a regular basis . Children need to be taught the values of life and have firm believe in themselves so that they don't fall into the pressure of peers or bullying . This also entails teaching them to talk to their parents about any pressure or bully they face  and also respecting others values and beliefs.


 3.Think Critically
Giving children the opportunity to think critically about decisions they are about to take makes them take better decisions later in life. Parents should allow children come up with some answers whether in school work or choices of wants.


 4.How to be Independent
A large per cent  of grown adults these days can hardly perform some simple home chores or basic things in life.
Ignorance or never being taught is listed as the second top reason for this. Parents should include their kids in their daily activities.By getting involved they learn lots of skills from their parents and therefore live independently when they are on their own.


 5.Value of money and time
Getting children involved in the act of saving money and not wasting time is very important because this habit will form  an integral part of their lives in future.


 6.Build relationships and respect
Children should be able to learn the importance of building relationships from their parents. Maintaining a good relationship with people around and families matters alot.Remembering important dates such as wedding anniversary,birthday etc.Exchanging greetings and wishing people well,saying "thank you",helping people,
reassure children that mistakes are good not bad are some the personal development every individual needs . Children learn all these when they see their parents doing all these acts.


 7.Readers are leaders
Great leaders are readers.It doesn't matter the child's age lot and lots of books should be introduced to children.Parents should get lots of books for children according to each child's age ranging from pictorials, spellings, story books e.t.c to read.

International day of the girl child.

"A girl child brings joy, she is no less than a boy"



International Day Of The Girl

The joy of parenting knows more joy when a girl child is brought to the world.The beauty of a girl child continues when she starts to exhibit the role of a sister to her siblings,the role of a helper and friend to her mother, the role of a comforter to her husband and a great asset to her nation because if you train a girl child you have trained the whole nation.


        "No girl – so, no mother –        ultimately no life"



She is a unique creature from God to make the world splendid.

Investment in girl child education benefits the individual, society, and the world as a whole.Supporting the girl child makes her a confident woman which radiates in lots of people's lives. Filling her growing life up with love and care brings up a passionate woman about different causes of life because this influences her reasonings in all her endeavours.

    Promte the girl child!!!
Happy International Girl Child Day

My independence day message to every Nigeria

Today I remembered some years back when I was in primary school and we were all full of excitement to wave at the present  president then during every independence day.

We had on sparkling white socks and neatly ironed uniforms.....Oooh such great memories.All that matters to my young mind and friends then was the opportunity to be able to wave to the president and  get a smile from him.


2015.....55years old Nigeria

Today is another October 1st  and l woke up early eagerly waiting to hear the presidential speech from the present president(President Muhammad Buhari)and all that matters to my adult mind is the state of the country,provision of basic amenities for the masses,security state of the county,health sector,electricity,education and the list is endless.
Independence day for me is not all about wearing green white green or attending functions . It's all about what the government is doing about the wellbeing of the masses and that little little right act we the masses engage ourselves in.
Are we throwing trash on the floor or throwing it in the dustbin?
How well do we do our jobs in our various fields?
Nigeria is a great country abundantly endowed with lots of minerals resources,diverse cultures, intelligent individuals and richly blessed land.Singing over and again the national anthem gives me the spirit of being a true patriotic Nigerian.....
Reciting the pledge should serve as a source of reminder for every Nigeria our duty to make this country a greater one....
We cannot afford to let the 55 years old country down....
We need to uphold the dreams of our heroes past and make Nigeria great.
The young mind who is all excited to get a glance at the president and share a wave of the flag will one day become the leader of tomorrow.Adult nigerians have a duty to  nuture a positive young Nigerian.
For the "young shall grow " The adult mind needs the love of this country to make it greater.
Let's all join hands both young and old to make Nigeria a great Nation.

God bless Nigeria!!!
#Happyindependence