When couples disagree on parenting skills.
As parents we aspire to make our kids greater than us.Ensuring this entails lot's of parenting skills. Sometimes we may want to address issues or discpline our kids in our own style but usually have our spouses not agreeing to our style parenting.
As couples we are not the same individual,there is bound to be a disagreement in agreeing to a kind of parenting style.Our upbringing, exposure,environment we grew up and beliefs influences our styles of parenting.
Mummy might like talking one on one with the kids while Daddy likes the firm hand with the kids.
Definitely couples with differences will argue over how to discipline their children.Most couples have opposite qualities which attracts each other . Unfortunately
these very qualities that pull us together often become those that threaten to push us apart.Things will be fine if parents can use the following guidelines and agree at a point the kind of parenting style they want for their kids.
*Couples should back-up each other decisions.
*Make each other look good. Both daddy and mummy should be the great guy to their kids.
*Talk about the kind of parenting style you both want when you are both calm and in a good mood.
*Agree to a particular style of parenting style different issues.
*Make your child understand the reasons why "dad" or "mum" is taking a decision and don't paint your spouse bad in front of your child.
*Get information on your spouse's upbringing, the environment they grew up and their beliefs to understand their points and know how deep their feelings are on parenting . Because these points influences and affects our reasoning as parents.
*Avoid getting into an argument but rather try and stay calm and listen to each other.
*Take a time out when things tends to get out of hand.
*Seek professional advice if you can't cope anymore.
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